Purple Reign

The last two weeks Kevin and I have been in Paris, one of the most noticeable trends we’ve remarked on is how purple Paris is.  Store windows, and many Parisians themselves, have been showcasing a passionate concern with the higher things in life.  As the color purple connotes a message of spirituality, in one of the world’s great fashion capitals, perhaps the concern with the “higher things in life” is nothing more than getting on with the business of living a good life.

[Pictured: Custo Barcelona, Kiton, Phergus Paris]

If purple is a favorite color of yours, chances are you feel secure and self-confident when you wear the color.  Purple is a particularly intuitive color, channeling messages to others that you are trusting and are a good listener.  People who respond positively to purple are sensitive types who draw upon their strengths by believing their inner voice.  Purple-loving people would also like the idea of putting on purple as a protective coating, if you will, as a way of protecting themselves from others’ rules and regulations.

[Pictured: Hermes - the most amazing windows ever!]

We could all stand to have a good listener in our lives, and to put our trust in someone.  It may as well be our own individual selves.  This feeling can be achieved by bringing purple into your environment, either on your body, or into your physical space in some way.  Based on what we’ve seen in Paris, there are no limits to how the color purple can be put to good use to enhance your emotional security.

[Pictured: Chantal Thomass, Annick Goutal, Frey Wille]

If you read last week’s blog post, then you know the two weeks’ time here in Paris has been a time of great awakening for me.  It’s totally appropriate the city was painted purple, and no doubt psychologically tinted the experience.  I wonder what would have happened if all the retailers got together and created windows in green instead…

What’s your favorite color, and how does your favorite color make you feel?

Designing and managing your image is the secret science of your success.

Joseph Rosenfeld helps professional men and corporate workgroups create effective visual brands. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.

Parisian Epiphany

Anyone who knows me to some small degree knows that if I could declare a love affair with a place it would be Paris.  Consider that opener a declarative admission because it’s entirely true.  Once settled into our accommodations, walking around the city with my partner, tears of joy stream down my face in appreciation for the ability to travel to a place where it feels as though I am traveling back in time to a past life where the familiarity of Paris keeps calling me back home.

We’re here for two weeks on this trip, and the first week is nearly complete.  This post is a rather personal one, and it’s intended to be because I want to share an epiphany of sorts about how coming to Paris pushes my life forward into the future by persuading me to come to terms with the past and to fuse together all parts into one.  Heady stuff for a vacation, but it’s Paris, a place of heady stuff: culture, cuisine, commerce, and couture.

The epiphany relates to design, another key element to what makes me tick.  Largely self-taught, I’m a steady student, looking for any opportunity to keep learning.  You’d think that when I come to Paris, Coco Chanel, Jeanne Lanvin, Madeleine Vionnet, Jean Paul Gautier, and other luminary Parisian fashion designers would be my main influencers.  On most days it would be true.

But this trip to Paris, we’ve been studying the architecture of Paris, and the result of this intensive approach has lead to a sudden intuitive leap of personal understanding.

Let me share it with you. Two architects in particular have done more to advance modern architecture and used Paris as their sandbox.  Hector Guimard and Le Corbusier completely transformed the way buildings were constructed in the 20th century and what I learned about their approaches to design has so much in common with my approach to design – only they designed structures, and I help to improve people’s personal structures, you might say.

Guimard is known as the man who brought the Art Nouveau style to architecture in France, particularly in Paris’ upscale 16th arrondissement starting before World War I.   What was so wonderful about his design work was that he designed not just the exterior of the buildings, but every detail of the interiors as well.  In fact, because he wanted apartment buildings to be unique, he would ensure each unit had it’s own special layout so no two in one building were exactly alike.  Even post World War I, when prosperity and resources had diminished, Guimard stayed true to his concept redefining how Art Nouveau architecture would be created.  The net effect on the city of Paris is that when you see curved facades on 20th century built, Haussmann styled architecture, a nod is owed to Guimard for having brought about this changed aesthetic.

The Swiss born Le Courbusier [a name he adopted] took the same approach as Guimard, but with the result of very different looking structures.  Le Corbusier was a minimalist, only incorporating into a structure what it needed to function.  Interestingly enough, Le Corbusier was very concerned with his interior spaces as well.  Of course, his eponymous home furnishings are legendary.  But he also collaborated with a certain cabinetmaker to create bookshelves that would accommodate books of varying sizes.  He always ensured ways of bringing natural light into every space, had metal and glass cut to exacting specifications, and even worked on creating exacting color palettes to maximize the effects of the spaces he designed.

It hit me like a ton of bricks [no pun intended] that Guimard’s and Le Corbusier’s designs – accounting for a structure’s interior and exterior – is just like how I bring balance to my clients’ interiors and exteriors.  Just as a home’s interior is its soul, I must be true to my clients’ interiors to be true to their facades.  By respecting this client trust, my design integrity is maintained.  Now I’m not running through Paris fancying myself a Guimard or a Le Corbusier.  But studying their challenges and successes inspire me to keep working at this level of thinking, feeling, and sensing.  It all worked for Guimard and Le Courbusier to the benefit of their clients, and it seems to be working for mine.

Designing and managing your image is the secret science of your success.

Joseph Rosenfeld helps professional men and corporate workgroups create effective visual brands. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.

Hair Apparent

Have you seen the preview trailers for Chris Rock’s new documentary “Good Hair” yet?  The ‘hair-sterical’ look at how black women feel about their hair – and the lengths they go to treat it – left me gasping for breath.  Last week Oprah “threw the Rock” through the TV when she hosted the comedian to promote the funny film.  I was trying to get over a case of the flu and by the end of the show, I had completely forgotten about being sick because Chris had laughed it right out of me.  Good Hair equals good laughs equals good medicine.

But behind the laughter, Chris Rock uncovers a veil of truth about how black women will go to virtually any length, as it were, to straighten their hair.  They use relaxers like some people use drugs, as is referenced in the movie.  Others acquire human hair that comes from the heads of young women in India.  It’s shocking to find out how many working and middle-income African American households sock away literally thousands of dollars annually on their hair regimens.  Some of the salons selling hair weaves that were featured in the film boasted about their lay-away plans, proving that people will plunk down big bucks and be committed for the long term to get a hair style they can live with.

All of this was totally fascinating to me as an image consultant.  Learning about an entire portion of the population dedicated to changing their appearance by altering their hair was an eye opener.

In my work with clients, hair is central to the process of helping most of them shift into a new look.  “New ‘do,’ new you,” I always say.  But the whole point is to do it naturally and authentically, working with what you have.  That’s always been the strategy.

Everyone’s got a personal style.  So I concentrate on the messages behind what each client’s personal style suggests, including each client’s goals.  Hair most certainly connects the onlooker to a perception about the wearer’s image.  Hair has to be styled to make sense for a person’s attitude.  But it also has to be cut so that it works with one’s facial shape, body type, length of neck, and so on.  Even one’s follicle thickness has to be taken into account because one kind of hairstyle may, in theory, work for someone in many ways.  But when the hair is cut the hair itself may not support the style.  So it’s really important to take all things into account before deciding on a new hairstyle.

So that’s why “Good Hair” is so fascinating.  There are so many considerations required in order to have good hair.  Is it better to have natural hair? Highly stylized hair?  Should a person have to put their hair on the lay away plan?  How much is enough?  How much is too much?  I try not to put blanket judgments out there.  Rather, I’m in favor of seeking the appropriate solution for each client because everyone’s needs are different.  How do you define your hair?  Do you have “Good Hair?”

Designing and managing your image is the secret science of your success.

Joseph Rosenfeld helps professional men and corporate workgroups create effective visual brands. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.

A New Look at First Impressions

Don’t dismiss first impressions.  Right or wrong, they are how we all make snap judgments about each other.

To help you along the sometimes-scary path of making the right impression, I’ve put together a few easy, common sense steps that you may want to follow so that others won’t “snap” you away.

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Whose Brand Are You Anyway?

Over the weekend, while quickly perusing my Facebook contacts’ updates, I saw a colleague’s comment, and – WOW – did it set me off!  Paraphrasing, the comment was, “you are the brand others say you are.”  I have fundamental problems with this statement, putting me squarely at odds with this colleague.  Maybe she didn’t even come up with the statement.  Maybe it’s someone else’s statement and she’s merely repeating it, so common in the image and branding fields where, ironically, original thought isn’t as simple as a sound bite.

When it comes to your personal brand, do you represent anyone but yourself?  “You are the brand others say you are.”  Puhleeze.  If having your own personal brand – and being true to yourself and your brand – is enough of a challenge, trying to satisfy the whims of everyone else who is apparently judging you is another matter entirely.  As a consultant, I despise these blanket statements, and it makes no sense when other ‘consultants’ espouse them like the gospel.

How others receive you is, in some way, out of your control.  That’s why this sound bite statement bites the big one with me.  Can you control the actions and thoughts of anyone but yourself?  This is why, when it comes to personal brand and image development, the crucial thing to do is to control what you project so you send the messages you want to communicate about yourself.  Hopefully others will receive your authentic messages so “ you are the brand you say you are.”

As a child, I was teased, even tormented, about my identity and appearance.  Growing up in a Chicago suburb with a strong Jewish community, my physical appearance singled me out as somehow negatively noteworthy for being Jewish.  Blemished skin, a small frame, slight build, and big glasses got me “branded” as being the short, ugly kid who was also last – if ever – to be picked for sports teams.

According to the colleague, I was the brand others said I was.  You know what, she was right – then.  Why?  Though my parents and grandparents gave me only love and support, all that stuck with me was the loud and repeated tormenting of my classmates.  I believed their negative PR about me.  In that sense, I validate the colleague’s Facebook quip.  But it’s exactly why it’s so wrong.  Why would anyone want to accept the path of everyone else’s perception when the only one that matters is your very own?

I share this very personal past experience because so much has evolved since then.  I found the secret to creating your personal brand and image starts by taking control and looking within.  It’s not that the opinions of others don’t matter.  But if people aren’t seeing you as you could be – as you should be – they’re certainly going to misunderstand your message, and what a shame that would be for them to not know how wonderful you really are.

Nothing is more important in creating a personal brand and image than to tell and show others who you are and what you stand for.  If you don’t do it, others will do it for you.  Do you want others speaking for you, or do you want to speak for yourself?

Designing and managing your image is the secret science of your success.

Joseph Rosenfeld helps professional men and corporate workgroups create effective visual brands. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.

How Many Image Tips Do You Need?

Does that question perplex you or make you laugh as much as it makes me laugh?  Well, maybe you don’t know just how much that does make me laugh.  And I have to tell you that sometimes it just makes me howl with laughter.  Not because some people need so much help that they may be beyond help.  That’s just catty.  I’m not beyond being catty, by the way.  It’s just that as a keen observer of people, it’s more in my giving nature to want to help.

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Is Shopping Your Closet Right For You?

One idea that has popped up this year is to shop your own closet – instead of a store – with your favorite image consultant.

I think shopping your closet is a fantastic way to reinvent the wardrobe, but there is a huge caveat to this concept.  You’ve got to have a fairly extensive wardrobe in order to make shopping your closet a sensible pursuit.  Based on the way my clients have been shopping with me lately, I don’t think everyone is capable of shopping their closets to reinvent their existing wardrobes.

To be plainly honest, many of my clients are taking this time to develop their wardrobes by focusing on a particular need.  While some are building an appropriate work wardrobe, others are realizing a need to develop a personal style for socializing, dating, and for traveling.  If an aspect of your wardrobe, either professional or personal, is underdeveloped, the idea of shopping your closet may be just as much as a fantasy as the season’s trendy fall fashions.

So how and when can shopping your closet benefit you?  If you are fortunate to have a closet full of clothes but are in the unfortunate position of thinking you have nothing to wear, that’s a prime sign it’s time to shop your closet.  You might have underutilized gems lurking around that could become new stars.  Combing through your wardrobe to eliminate pieces that drain it of your energy is very helpful.  Sometimes all you can see are those items you never want to wear.  Yet there they are, staring right back at you like a bad dream.

Psychologically, ridding your closet of unnecessary items can be challenging.  Can you afford to let go of things you paid money for?  I tend to wonder more deeply whether you can afford to feel drained by a wardrobe that isn’t doing its job for you.  So I honor the challenges you might face by this challenge, but I also see and would want to honor the opportunity that this process poses.

When you look at your wardrobe with fresh, new eyes the greatest benefit you can expect is freedom.  There’s freedom from limiting items that don’t support your body, messages, and goals.  And there’s freedom from doing the same ole, same ole.  Try something new with something old, and experience something fresh.  Treat yourself to and mix in a few new key items, and more than the wardrobe is transformed – you are offered some sense of renewal.

It’s an exciting time to be taking stock of your wardrobe as it pertains to your image.  It always feels wonderful being complimented about how good you’re looking. These days we can all use a pick-me-up.  But it’s better still when you open that closet, knowing it’s filled like your own customized boutique, and you see yourself looking back at you, seeing only good choices to wear.

Designing and managing your image is the secret science of your success.

Joseph Rosenfeld helps professional men and corporate workgroups create effective visual brands. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.

Revving Up Your Image In a Mixed Economy

Every single day, there are so many bite-sized TV segments dedicated to this very topic.  I watch NBC’s “Today” daily, and without fail, the program producers are prone to throw its female demographic a shopping party at every turn.  This frustrates me on two fronts.  First, when focusing on “economy shopping,” the outfits shown are so trendy-oh-so.  I’d hesitate to suggest the average female shopper rev up her professional image by spending money on anything other than updated wardrobe essentials.  Second, what about men?!  They’re part of the workforce, too.

So I was excited and flattered when Nina Price, The Professional Competitiveness Coach, asked me to be a part of her upcoming teleseminar series.  It’s happening the week of September 14.  Each day at 9:00am Pacific, Nina will interview one of 5 experts [including me] about a strategy topic that is part of her upcoming book, “5 Strategies for Staying Employed in Today’s Economy.”  Naturally, I’ll be talking with Nina about how people – maybe even you – can successfully rev up their image.

Job interviews today are a real test of wills.  But the credentials on the resume tell only part of the story.  Knowing how to show up for an interview is very important because it shows the right attention to detail was paid.  What’s the proper balance?  The industry you work for has some norms, a sub-culture you want to respect while making your best case.  Show up over dressed, and you’ll look as if you’re covering up for some shortcoming elsewhere.  Under dress and you run the risk of being the less attractive of two candidates.

Even with all these considerations to take into account, a job candidate should show up to an interview with a good smile, a flattering hairstyle, clean and pressed clothes, shined shoes, and manicured hands.  Your smile is your passport to a less stressful interview because when you smile you can show some easy confidence.  A flattering hairstyle is crucial because it frames the face, which helps to put that smile on center stage.  Clean and pressed clothes, no matter how informal, show self-respect, respect for the interviewer, and for the occasion.  Shined shoes today don’t necessarily call for a spit shine.  A matte shine can be totally appropriate in many industries, like high tech.  But scuffmarks should be buffed out.  Speaking of buffing, manicured hands don’t have to be done by a manicurist if you’re on a zero budget.  But nails should be clean and trimmed; and hands should look and feel like they belong to a professional.

It’s a smart idea to practice eye contact along with the handshake, and to videotape yourself while doing a mock interview.  Presentation skills like these are so valuable because when you’ve practiced and studied your mannerisms, you know what to do with your eyes, hands, body, and voice.  You want to be sure not to stare or avoid looking at the interviewer.  A firm handshake with just a pump or two is appropriate, but you want to avoid giving a clamping handshake or the limp and lifeless handshake {I personally despise this].  Your posture should be upright but not uptight, and your body language should be comfortable, but arms should not be flailing about as if you are trying to balance yourself while walking a tightrope.  Vocal tone and tempo are also important.  The tone should be moderate and you want to avoid speaking too slow resembling a robot or speaking too quickly like the tape is on fast-forward.

There’s so much to cover in just one hour.  This is just a taste of what’s to come when Nina Price interviews me on Wednesday, September 16 at 9:00 a.m. Pacific.  Join us, won’t you?

Designing and managing your image is the secret science of your success.

Joseph Rosenfeld helps professional men and corporate workgroups create effective visual brands. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.

Wardrobe Games

An acquaintance in Ithaca, New York alerted me to a Wall Street Journal blog post written by a Silicon Valley-based thirtysomething man entitled, “The Perils of Interview Attire.”  Writing about one of my favorite topics – how Silicon Valley engineers are known to have a style all their own – Jon Gray tells of his perilous job interviewing wardrobe experiences.  In Gray’s situations, intentionally wearing an item – or not – moves beyond the physical.  It’s a head-trip.

Among three of Gray’s buddies who have interviewed at startup companies, none have worn ties to job interviews in years, he says.  Welcome to Silicon Valley, home of the dress for success counterculture, where success is measured not by the noose around your neck but based on other factors.  Now you might be thinking with this comment that I’ve gone soft and that the Silicon Valley is an altruistic place where qualifications, merit, degrees, and diplomas are all that count.  Cough. Cough.  Image still matters heavily, but it matters in a different way than in other parts of the country.

In Gray’s post he explained how he went to an interview wearing a suit with no tie, and unbuttoned his dress shirt at the collar.  The company vice president gave him a sartorial thumb’s down, even though the recruiter’s feedback was flying high.  He promised to dress more appropriately for additional interviews.  When he went back to meet with the president and the CEO, he wore a suit, tie, and even shined his shoes for the occasion.  When the CEO showed Gray out of the building he told him to “never wear a tie to an interview at a startup!”

There are all sorts of issues with this story.  One is that he took advice from two sets of colleagues but didn’t get more insight.  A second issue is that he didn’t know more about the startup company’s culture.  A third issue is that after meeting with the company vice president he should have had some ideas of how to dress for subsequent interviews based on how the vice president was dressed and based on the vice president’s feedback about the way he showed up for the interview.  A fourth issue is that the recruiter should have provided better information to Mr. Gray about the way he should dress for subsequent interviews.

Jon Gray got caught in a wardrobe game played by many men in the Silicon Valley counterculture.  How does a guy be an individual and still fit in to the culture of the Valley, and the technology sector culture?

The simple answer is the complex answer:  Guys like Jon Gray have to know themselves and have to know the company they are [going to be] employed by.

As I said in my comment response to Gray’s blog post, “A self-assured man dresses for the purpose of achieving his goals, and goal number one is being able to look at yourself in the mirror knowing you represented yourself properly.”  This answers the part of knowing yourself.  “The idea of dressing appropriately for an occasion means balancing your own needs and goals with the expectations of your audience.”  Without losing your sense of self, you need to know your audience.  “If you don’t know your audience’s expectations, you need to inquire.”  This means, do your due diligence and research a company even if it means parking your car in the lot and watching the comings and goings of the people.

Jon and others might wish for the good old days of rules – as we knew them to be.  In fact, there are ‘rules’ of dress that apply to Jon’s situation but they aren’t the classic rules found in dog-eared copies of published books.  These rules are experiential and are ever-changing.  It only makes sense this is happening here in Silicon Valley, a place where game playing is an art form.

Designing and managing your image is the secret science of your success.

Joseph Rosenfeld helps professional men and corporate workgroups create effective visual brands. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.

Notable Ways to Color Your Life

Wearing the right colors is something I’ve been aware of since my teenage years and the discovery of The Preppy Handbook. Certain colors and combinations signified the preppy look, and I wanted to look preppy. At the same time, it was obvious some colors did not look so good on me. A pastel-tinted shirt’s low intensity drained my energy. Other colors made me look “blah” while the colors looked stronger than me. This was one of life’s moments when I knew I had an interest in style. Now all these years later, color is central to the work I do as an image consultant to help others develop their personal visual brands.

Recently I did a presentation about how to make an impression with color for a social group of about 25 women. It was a thrill to talk with them about color theory, color types, how to use color to change the way one’s body looks, how to convey different messages by wearing certain colors, and how I identify each client’s essences by reading their color palette. Many of the women have come to see me to develop their customized color palettes, and it’s been a blast showing them what is possible for them with their special combinations of colors.

My clients always inspire me with their unique strengths and energy. I always want each of them to see the strength and energy I see in them as an objective third party and to grow with the help of my suggestions when opportunities are identified.

You might wonder how in the world color can even help you reach your goals. The answer is amazingly simple, and comes by way of this analogy I made up:

Color is a lot like music. In music there are all the notes, A, B, C, D, E, F, G, just like there are all the colors in the prism. Now we all think we should be able to each sing a C note. Guess what? Some of us can’t. This is just like being unable to wear a certain color, regardless of how light or dark the color is. Octave levels in music are like color intensity levels. Not all of us sing at the same octave level either. Some of us sing naturally higher or lower than one another. Not every color intensity level works for everyone. If you were a singer, vocal training and coaching would help you develop a stronger voice, greater awareness of your vocal range, and you’d be in a position to expand your range. The same is true with color. Everybody wears clothes and has messages to convey while wearing them. When you learn and know what colors look best on you, you know more about your visual strengths and how to convey them to everyone else.

So here’s to all the women who have come to work with me on their personal color profiles in the last few weeks: you each inspire me with your strengths, your stories, and your willingness to be open and share. You make me love being an image consultant, and I can’t wait to see how your style develops.

Designing and managing your image is the secret science of your success.

Joseph Rosenfeld helps professional men and corporate workgroups create effective visual brands. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.