I don’t know how else to bring up this frank subject other than to say right here and now that if you are too modest and delicate to read my comments that hit below the belt, this may be the moment to opt out. Once you start reading further, though, I’m sure you’ll agree that what may preclude you from reading initially will have you saying, “Yes, Joseph. Tell it like it is, Joseph!” I just want to be up front about where this is all headed.
As an image consultant I am a student of human behavior. I can be in an exclusive shop, walking down the street, driving along in my car, sitting in an airport or in a restaurant and I’m going to be looking at whoever is in my line of vision. Observing people is just a natural part of human interaction.
Body language is a crucial factor of human behavior. It says an awful lot about his overall comportment and leads an onlooker to form instantaneous decisions about his presence. As an image consultant, it’s natural to study non-verbal communication of corporate executives and politicians and the foibles that foil their careers and campaigns.
But I just don’t understand, being the man I am, why men in general, feel the need to grab themselves and give themselves a public readjustment. Do they think that no one is looking? Do they just not care? Is this another case of mine is bigger than yours?
I have so many questions about why this behavior exists, but the final answer is that this public readjusting is just r-o-n-g wrong. The image consulting profession is a female dominated field, and I cannot imagine almost a single one of my colleagues tackling this sensitive subject with a ten-foot pole. So I feel it absolutely must be addressed.
It has been bothering me for some time now, this notion that men just fix themselves like they’re freshening up their hair. Even in Europe recently I found this to happen – and in every city we visited. This is a global issue of incivility. It’s rude to grab yourself in public, gentlemen. If you need to adjust, excuse yourself like a proper person and take care of your business.
I remember an episode of The Oprah Winfrey Show from many years ago when she interviewed Michael Jackson and asked why he grabbed himself. As I recall, he claimed it was purely reactionary to “feeling the music” he created. He was a unique individual, and if that excuse could be used by anyone, he got the pink hall pass to use it.
I don’t care if you call it your music maker or your money maker. I don’t care how big it is or how twisted it is. If you grab it and rearrange it in public you are rude and inconsiderate. We are supposed to be moving forward as men, not acting like stupid ass cavemen. Act with some discretion. People are keeping tabs.
Joseph Rosenfeld helps high-profile individuals revitalize, manage, and be secure in their personal visual brand. Visit JosephRosenfeld.com for details.