Don’t Be A Genuine Fake

A small shop selling leather accessories that mimic the real thing. My advice: refuse the temptation to buy items that are genuine fake.

A small shop selling leather accessories that mimic the real thing. My advice: refuse the temptation to buy items that are genuine fake.

As if I needed a “reminder-to-self”, while enjoying a perfectly lovely trip abroad, I got a clear message that I must refuse to be a genuine fake.  You should, too.

Now, I didn’t need to come to Turkey to figure this out.  But the concept of buying goods that are each brazenly marketed as being a genuine fake, struck me as a genuine affront to all that is good in the world.  For about twenty bucks apiece, I could have filled my wrists and arms with genuine fake brand name watches with nearly identical designs and appearances to the real McCoy’s.  I am sure we have all seen this before on Canal Street in New York, or by some street vendor off Union Square in San Francisco, or just about anywhere else.

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Makeover Superstar – No matter who you are!

Jody Watley [ca. 2006] singer/songwriter of Makeover Superstar, and also inspired this post.

Jody Watley [ca. 2006]

I absolutely want each client to become her or his own makeover superstar.  But not one of my clients initially says that this is ultimately what they care about.  And that’s because I’m already thinking ahead, from the perspectives of wanting everyone to far exceed their own goals, and of wanting to be an outstanding service provider.

It is my honor and focus to help each client realize and fulfill their personal image goals.  And while each client has her or his reasons and desires for making changes and improvements, a true measure of success can be assessed when I see that each one of them becomes a makeover superstar.

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Looking Like The Best You

This guy is a cultural icon of social media. But does his personal style impact yours?

This guy is a cultural icon of social media. But does his personal style make looking like the best you seem like it’s too much?

Time after time, both clients and non-clients tell me that it’s almost too much of an effort to look their very best.  But why is looking like the best you so hard to do?

Let’s review a few key things that come up for a lot of people who have been brave and vulnerable to share their reasons with me.

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Giving Up On Your Image Is Like Giving Up On You

I often wonder why so many people seem to end up giving up on their image, especially when they have so much potential to enhance it. Sometimes it takes the temerity to keep trying. Anyone who’s ever taken the bar exam knows that it’s not unusual to fail it the first time out of the gate. But that doesn’t stop most from retaking the exam.

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Making The Most of Your Personal Image

Making the most of your personal image can be easy or difficult.  It doesn’t have to be difficult, but the more you resist, the more difficult it is.  If you have resisted updating your image, gave up on trying to coordinate clothing to make cohesive outfits, neglected to consider the messages and purposefulness of your clothing and outfits, or have let yourself go only to find that you have a negative self-image, then you’re making it more difficult to make the most of yourself.

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One of a Kind – Stand Out and Be Outstanding

Cohorts visiting Selima Optique at the “One of a Kind” New York Fashion Conference. Pictured l to r: Susan Sommers, Annie Brumbaugh, Joseph Rosenfeld, Maureen Costello, Margo Hasan.

This past weekend in New York City I attended, for the third consecutive year, the New York Fashion Conference, and the theme was “One of a Kind.”  This most auspicious theme had me very excited about the prospect of learning more deeply about a topic that is near and dear to my heart.  After all, I see every one of my clients as being “One of a Kind,” no matter how much I may find that they share common interests or styles.

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Influence Their Image

It can’t come as any surprise to anyone who knows me, or regularly reads my blog that I’m anyone other than a social change agent packaged as an image consultant.  My big hairy audacious goal is to be the go-to guy in Silicon Valley that successful high-profile people come to when they need someone to help them influence their image.

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Clothes That Make You Feel Controlled

Have you ever felt controlled or manipulated to be someone who you are not, simply by wearing clothes that someone else gave you or told you to wear?  If you think this is something that doesn’t involve you, you might think about it a bit more deeply.  One of my new clients has identified this issue as a chief reason for her low self-image.  It could be something that you have also experienced.  You may even be causing this hardship, unknowingly, on someone else that you love.

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And You Think That Being Authentic Is Not Easy

Looking and being authentic is not easy for so many people.  While at the Human Rights Campaign Gala in San Francisco over the weekend, this message hit me front-and-center.

You know, there’s so much the general population can learn from the LGBT [lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered] community about how to show up and be authentic.  Moreover, I am very clear that the LGBT community can also learn a lot from itself in this regard.

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Jump Off to A New Horizon

Ka’ena Point, Oahu, Hawaii, is the westernmost point on Oahu.

Ever felt like your self-image has held you back from feeling – and looking – your best? From fully enjoying your life?  From reaching all of your goals?  It’s amazing just how many of us have been unable to jump off to a new horizon because we allowed a poor self-image to take control.  I’ve just come through one of these experiences and want to share this personal story with you.

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