Style reveals your true story. In my extensive blog writings, I put lots of focus into this topic, and for good reason. It’s the absolute truth. Just before sitting down to write this post, I shared a 45-minute call with an old friend from the high school years. We follow one another on social media and keep up with what the other is doing. But, we hadn’t had a conversation in some decades [yikes!]. He randomly came across an article that profiled my business. It piqued his interest and wanted to reach out find out more.
And, find out he did. I shared with him several client stories illustrating how style reveals your true story. Style has certainly impacted the three clients whose stories I shared. He found the stories compelling. Yet, he did not find that any of their stories reflected his own. Since I know that people’s connection to style is highly personal, his reaction came as no surprise. What makes individuals choose to take the initiative to delve into developing their style is personal. Quite simply, he – or you – would need to surrender to the process, and to the experience, to uncover the deeper benefits.
My present day practice goes back to over thirty years ago. Way back then, I hypothesized that transforming my style would transform me. In a fit of pure teenage desperation, I developed the notion that style could give me a second lease on life. This gave birth to a totally unexpected and amazing career and life. Today, I stand in the service of a truly special cadre of clients whose lives have all transformed on some level. And, there’s no trace of teenage desperation among any of us. Had I not intuitively and perceptively discovered the power of personal style, I would have no personal story to tell.
As I know from personal experience, developing your personal style can be a very emotional and cathartic journey. I have taken a lifetime of personal experience, practical work experience, and a lifetime of stories to share how style reveals your true story.
Back to my old friend for a moment, and the conversation we shared. He mentioned how Mark Zuckerberg dresses in a way that would suggest that he doesn’t care – and that he doesn’t have to care – about his personal style. But, I wholeheartedly disagree. How he once dressed – and how he now continues to choose to dress – is full of intention. There’s nothing random about his style choices. Most onlookers would think the same as my old friend.
By the way, I always find it hilarious how people reference the Facebook founder for his lack of style. He is the anti-icon of style. And this is why so many people ask me about his style, including my old friend.
I had to point to my friend that how he sees Zuckerberg’s style is a reflection of his own attitude. My friend thinks that dressing in jeans and gray T-shirts and hoodies is thoughtless. He thinks so because, if he were to dress this way, it would reflect his own lack of intention. I understand that because I would also feel that way. But, I also closely study and evaluate people in the public eye, including my clients. This is why I know for a fact that Zuckerberg’s wardrobe choices are well thought out. There’s more to those choices than meets the eye.
Likewise, most professionals who show up to work in jeans and gray T-shirts and hoodies do so out of laziness. Guess what? That laziness, thoughtlessness, and lack of intention around your style reveals your true story. Do you want others to think of you like this because you dress that way? I sure hope not! But, if you do, I can help.
Over 30 years ago as a teenager, I intuited style as, potentially, the most powerful, and intentional transformational tool. It could help me make the most of myself, to see my gifts, to maximize my potential. So, my style continues to evolve as my life does, and it reveals my true story. The best outcome of this totally unpredictable life is how I can guide your transformation so that style reveals your true story.
You don’t need to have had the harrowing childhood that I did to have unprecedented growth by developing your personal style. But, you do have a story to tell as your successes and challenges manifest. It’s a perfect time to reflect and consider how your style reveals your true story. Could you be in a different or better place if you put more focus on your personal development?
This has happened to so many clients over the years that I have to share it as a possibility. While it might require a leap of faith, nothing could be better than feeling like your best self – and looking it. It’s worth considering, as tomorrow is another day. And, tomorrow offers a fresh opportunity to challenge yourself to rise up and to become the very best version of yourself. You deserve it.
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