Now I want to share with you an experience a client had with me. We met up for some hours to review her personal color profile, her personal style profile, and her existing wardrobe. As we were going along, my client began to see that working with me leads to surprises.
One of the many interesting facets about her is that she has done a lot of deep personal work. This made it more naturally easy for her to understand what the experience of working with me would be like. She also seemed to understand the essential value she’d receive. She’s embarked on an exciting journey as a woman in her fifties with two grown children. Plus, she’s “as single as a dollar bill” [I owe a reference of this phrase to R&B singer Angie Stone]. Where she’s at in her life is a time of renewal and transformation.
Transformation has this textbook definition of being a “complete change, usually into something with an improved appearance or usefulness.”
I define transformation differently than the textbook. Complete change always conjures a sense of abandonment, as if you need to run away from everything you’ve ever known or experienced. I totally don’t subscribe to this. Instead, I believe that this particular client, like nearly all of them, only needs to be reoriented and do some fine-tuning. It’s almost like having all of the right ingredients to make the most fabulous cake. But using the wrong amount of even just one ingredient can turn out a finished cake that doesn’t resemble what you were trying to do.
When clients work with me, it’s important that they have a complete experience. I need to evaluate the ingredients we’re working with and then figure out how to make the loveliest cake, if you will. Baking requires measuring the ingredients and following the recipe exactly. So, on this day last week, we had a lengthy conversation about her “ingredients.”
While reviewing her color profile together, I shared how the combination of colors tells quite a wonderful story about her. As we concluded this review, she saw how working with me leads to surprises. Even with all of the personal work she has done, she felt vulnerable in my presence, because she felt as if I had seen deeply into her. She said, “Wow. This is about so much more than clothes.”
Yes, it most definitely is.
I always express this point to new clients as they first come on board. But, for some reason, no one really believes it until something major happens. That’s why working with me leads to surprises. I ‘d be happy if there were fewer surprises. But, sometimes it really takes having an experience to shake things up. Happily, these kinds of surprises are good ones.
We talked at length about the value in having another person objectively understanding her. It will translate into her developing a strong personal style that is in sync with who she really is. When I put together her very first capsule of new clothes, it must immediately have the right look and feel. Clothes should embody who you are from the inside out. This is what we endeavor to do.
Then, we had a solid look at her wardrobe. She could tell very quickly that this collection of clothing was not serving her. She reacted positively to the realization that it was time to move into a new look because she got to see and understand why.
The first thing that we noticed immediately was how “off” her clothing colors are in relation to her color profile. Her clothes are so bright and loud that they “speak” before she does. People might pay her a compliment on an article of clothing, but the compliment would not be about her. Why? She disappeared behind the colors. We also reflected on how the patterns and styles of clothes are not true reflections of her authentic self. In the past, it’s possible that they were. But, we’re not evaluating the past. We are moving forward.
Here’s where my client got another sense of how working with me leads to surprises. She was certain that virtually all of her existing clothing would be donated. But, what was surprising was what she learned about herself. By evaluating the clothes to see what was positive about them, she could see what we need to bring forward into a new and stronger look. Colors that are too bright, and patterns that are too expressive both point to one crucial thing. She is an exuberant woman. She wears her feelings out loud. We need to be able to maintain that, but also balance it to other personality traits of hers.
We also appreciated together how important it is that her clothes travel easily because she travels extensively. She did have some clothing items that reflected her interest in leisure and entertaining. But those items are no longer flattering, and look dated. So she will get an update, and we will use those items as inspiration.
All of this led to the ultimate of surprises that she discovered. Letting go of what no longer serves was the easiest thing to do. She certainly wasn’t expecting that to happen so easily.
Her story is like so many other clients. It’s also a story that will be continued because she is just getting started. More surprises await her as she subtly transforms into the very best ever version of herself.
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